Comments on: Friendship requires sacrifice.

By: Shelley Bowker

Shelley Bowker — Thu, 23 Jan 2020 21:10:27 +0000

You know, Your comment, “I try to be a “fun” person to be around and I feel insecure when I’m struggling.”, makes so much sense to me. “I” make more sense to me after reading that. Thank-you for your honesty, and thank-you for this post. It has made such a difference about how I feel about myself..It has lightened my heart.

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 15 Mar 2019 14:15:38 +0000

Oh the friend who loved you through your valley, Jess. You make so many of us stronger with your authenticity – I’m glad you have a tribe who lifts your weary arms in the good fight.

By: Kristy Everett

Kristy Everett — Mon, 11 Mar 2019 17:33:40 +0000

Love this! Such an important topic and so important for all of us. Thank you for shining a light on this as I really have been struggling with it

By: Jess

Jess — Thu, 21 Feb 2019 05:57:07 +0000

love this

By: Kristin Boney

Kristin Boney — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 11:26:01 +0000

Thank you so much! So true, so beautiful!!! Wish everyone could read this and feel this way!!!

By: Carmen Lane

Carmen Lane — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 18:22:01 +0000

Unfortunately even at our age, I’m 49, and women are catty, 2- faced, and hypocritical. I thought I had a close knit group of friends until we went on our yearly memorial day beach trip and i had a fling with a man there. Was it wrong… yes. But it was nothing they hadn’t done before! In fact they would have the same group of guys meet them there every year! They had one there for the newbies to the girls trip. It was fine for me to be with him on my first beach trip. Until… one of the main girls met a guy at the beach, cheated on her husband with him for about a year, divorced her husband, then married him! My last beach trip, because of this fling, I was chastised and told I messed up! Because now the girl who married her fling… his family lived on that beach! What if they saw me? That made her and the others look bad like we did that all the time……WE DID! That same weekend two of the other regular girls had a fling with the chosen ones…. but that was ok! Since then I have had one breast friend who I met through work. She passed away on my birthday last year July 2018. I’ve had many more experiences with so called friends and I’ve decided I’m better without them!

By: wonderoak

wonderoak — Thu, 07 Feb 2019 15:25:36 +0000

In reply to livinglightlyinireland. I love this!

By: livinglightlyinireland

livinglightlyinireland — Thu, 07 Feb 2019 10:46:20 +0000

I really like your posts on friendship. I have always struggled to maintain friendships. I’m not really interested in chatting about people or events, I prefer chatting about ideas and theories. This bores most people and they move onto someone less cerebral. In recent years I’ve found great support in knitting groups. They’re more informal friendships and we all support one another collectively so it’s less pressurised than a one-to-one friendship. This has allowed deeper friendships to develop over the years and i can honestly say I no longer feel lonely now.

By: Heidi newton

Heidi newton — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 21:24:55 +0000

What if you really want friends but so depressed and you have had friends tell you that friendship aren’t here to deal with your problems. They text you and you want more than how are you I’m fine you ok.and that’s then end of conversation. But don’t get it wrong I love to help others and have just gone out of my way and made dinner for people would just pick up the phone anytime of night.

By: wonderoak

wonderoak — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 18:07:45 +0000

In reply to Shardai. Yeah I hear you! I’d try and invest in outings without kids then and maybe the kids will grow out of their differences! It kinda depends I’ve been in that situation before and it was super hard at the same time I know my friends have been super patient with my wild child . You just gotta do what works for you. So sorry you’re lonely friend.