Comments on: Don’t drink the Mom-Koolaid

By: Carolyn Coffee Nissen

Carolyn Coffee Nissen — Tue, 12 Feb 2019 17:01:57 +0000

Yes ! I’m about 20 years older than the older moms in my sons class. My girlfriends are sending their babies off to colleges, marriages, and heading out on their own hard won adventures or cruises. I’m sending mine to 4 th grade and there are a lot more grades to go …

I feel lonely sometimes and I feel like a bad friend to those old friends who now want to play sans kiddos .

I’m also working a lot a lot ! I have two small businesses that are really just me . Thou is great to be “ incharge” of me it also not great to be always “incharge”. I’m tired and stay up way too late to read . I’m lonely and crave alone time. I’m youngish in a room of younger . And it’s all ok …

Thank you for the reminder this morning .

By: Jeanne Hull Olszowy

Jeanne Hull Olszowy — Fri, 25 Jan 2019 14:36:18 +0000

Our flaws make us unique for sure! Confession: I swear under my breath sometimes at my daughter’s basketball games. It gets worse. I’m an assistant coach. One more “worse”, it’s a Catholic league. I work on that (and not making snarky comments about the referees) every weekend. It’s a work in progress and so is life. 🙂

By: httptaleof2rascals

httptaleof2rascals — Wed, 23 Jan 2019 16:12:19 +0000

Wow! This is so true!! Thank you for writing and sharing this wisdom with us 🙂

By: rawsonjl

rawsonjl — Tue, 22 Jan 2019 22:25:46 +0000

OH so very true! We all might have parts of it all together at one time or another but it’s pretty hard to have it all together everywhere all the time… and I’m not even sure that’s a mom or parent thing; I think it’s a life thing!

By: wonderoak

wonderoak — Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:28:35 +0000

In reply to Cindy Elliott. Thank you!

By: Cindy Elliott

Cindy Elliott — Tue, 22 Jan 2019 15:14:44 +0000

I think the terms you use are excellent and appropriate. Imposter Syndrome is being used to draw a comparison by women with the job of Mom, in this case and the attempt to appear as though one “has it together” is a symptom of believing that you are somehow less capable despite all the evidence that you are fully capable. Also the “drinking the koolaid” is often used as a metaphor for buying into a cult like group think that is killing you. So the extreme case of Jonestown sheds a light on a trend that is widespread amoung humans and that is the need to belong can over power other needs including survival. When people pretend in order to belong, it is a symptom of this same phenomenon but to a less harmful degree.

I like the parallels you draw and the comparisons that are intended to shine a light on the harm that is happening every day.

By: wonderoak

wonderoak — Tue, 08 Jan 2019 18:13:20 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth. I hear what your saying and apologize for the confusion, however, I think most readers understand what I was trying to say :). I think the term transfers well even though it wasn’t the original meaning.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Tue, 08 Jan 2019 18:04:28 +0000

Someone may have already commented this, and while I don’t want to detract from the main point of your article, that is not actually what “Imposter Syndrome” means. Imposter Syndrome is a term for people (particularly used for describing women in the workplace) who do not feel they have the competencies and capabilities to hold the jobs the do despite evidence otherwise – nearly the opposite of what is described here. It is a well defined psychological pattern/condition. I would encourage you to do a bit of research on terms you aren’t familiar with so that you don’t spread misinformation. Sounds like your friend took a term she heard somewhere and applied her own definition to it that wasn’t exactly accurate.

By: wonderoak

wonderoak — Tue, 01 Jan 2019 20:41:53 +0000

In reply to Nicole. I apologize, I was unaware of the origin of that expression

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 01 Jan 2019 20:34:14 +0000

Using the expression “drinking the Kool-Aid” is HIGHLY insensitive and offensive…. You might rethink it. Google Jonestown and see where that expression originates