Comments on: 10 Miracle Phrases to Help You Reconnect With Your Child https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/ Tue, 14 Nov 2023 08:57:46 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: lee Webster https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-49334 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-49334 I am scared to get back in my 2 boys 14 & 15 year old as I’ve not had contact for 3 years my mum died then my dad also covid arrived but this sounds like an excuse but true they only live 2 miles away I want to send a letter but don’t know what to say..lee

]]> By: Kayla https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-46396 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-46396 A valuable article. I’m feeling a major disconnect with my son, and it pains me. I was immediately intrigued by the conversation starters, especially after reading it was a definite way to get more than one word responses. But you’re selling them? Conversation starters? Ridiculous.

]]> By: Barbara G. https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-40981 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-40981 I am very happy to be reading this. After working with children for many years in therapy and now retired I am spending lots of time with grandson. I am pretty patient but there are times that I need to rephrase/reset. His mom struggles immensely they have never had a typical child and she is always thinking he is going to misbehave before he has. She is of course exhausted from her work and with a teenage special needs son. It is difficult for me to give her advice, but I think this will help her.

]]> By: Laura https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-40213 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-40213 In reply to Mar.

I LOVE your approach, “I often tell my kids, you didn’t know but now you do…so how can we handle this next time.” Truthfully, as a first time and now divorced/single mother, this works both ways. I tell myself all the time, my son and I are both learning and we both need forgiveness and deserve grace during this challenging phase. Thankfully at the core of our mother/son relationship there is devotion and love beyond all else. However, in the midst of puberty and a world that has gone mad, we often have to remind ourselves of that!! Thanks for sharing!

]]> By: Nanet Ashby https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-33744 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-33744 I loved reading your article! It hit home and left me with great ideas!! Thank you

]]> By: Marie https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7885 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7885 Kelly, I think you just saved my life and my relationship with my kids…Your tips are simply genius and I feel I finally found what works for me after years of unsuccessful attempts at being a mom who does not explode every other day…I am forever thankful and grateful. God bless you!!

]]> By: SHANNON SMITH https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7283 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7283 This is an excellent article for parents who may have been separated from children for several years military or any other life changing situations in which I have a 10 year old that I am re connecting with after 5 years. Her father and I are reconnecting at the same time. The advice works for us and I just have to say thank you.

]]> By: Alex Mitchell https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7150 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7150 Loved this and perfect timing after a gran passing

]]> By: Kelly Holmes https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7136 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7136 In reply to Ljiljana.

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]]> By: Ljiljana https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7135 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7135 I have a question about email.I have subscribed but haven’t received any email yet?!

]]> By: Samantha https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-7082 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-7082 Thank you for these phrases! They’re what I need as my kids get older.

I also like a simple “Wow, that’s really frustrating!” or simply mirroring what my daughter told me (I know, you feel like you NEVER get to do x), even if it’s not an accurate statement. Just feeling heard helps all of us.

Thanks again!
Samantha

]]> By: Mrs C Draper https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-6724 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-6724 I have reinstated, (upon reading this article) from a sense/state of despair
into a feeling of perpetual contentedness.

]]> By: Judy FIsher https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-6485 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-6485 In reply to Christine.

I am so sorry to hear. My oldest (22 years old) has pushed me aside because she is dating a jerk. I am trying to reconnect and would like to know how to do so.

]]> By: Christine https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-6216 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-6216 Is there a cheat sheet to help reconnect a parent to adult children? Mine have cut me out of their lives with no warning or explanation. It’s been seven years now, my heart is broken beyond repair.

]]> By: Mar https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-6049 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-6049 In a world that is full of aggression, loving your child while you discipline is essential. We don’t have to be angry when we discipline to make it valid. We can calmly explain the why. Many times we expect our kids to know how to behave. We must explain to them each time. I often tell my kids, you didn’t know but now you do…so how can we handle this next time. It takes time and patience but it works!

]]> By: Maria Gonzales https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-5692 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-5692 OMGoodness!! What an “AHA” moment I just experienced. Thank you for sharing and educating this “Gramgram”. You have provided me with answers to questions I didn’t even know to ask. Had I learned this 30 years ago I could have saved my daughter so much anguish and heartbreak. By your description, my amygdala has been stuck wide open all these years, having taken on a life of it’s own. I hope it’s not too late to build that bridge to her, even though I feel like I’m the one on the island. I now understand that I have the tools and the materials needed to start building. Thank you!!

]]> By: Jill https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-3597 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-3597 thank you so much for sharing!

]]> By: Jaimie https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-3560 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-3560 I loved your post – such valuable information and such a good reminder! Thank you very much! :)

]]> By: Julia https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-3515 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-3515 These phrases are great. I read intending to gain insight for future needs as well as maybe improve my relationship with my younger sister. I am also a primary grades teacher and was happy to find that I already use most of these phrases with my students! Great suggestions, my students usually respond positively to these prompts. My favorite is the apology from the adult to the child. They need to know everyone makes mistakes and is working on being better.

]]> By: Sacerdote https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child/#comment-3444 https://happyyouhappyfamily.com/?p=9230#comment-3444 Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your simple comment about stress hormones flooding one’s brain in the heat of a difficult moment surely just changed a part of my life. I think so many times in life, we can’t confront a barrier simply because we lack the awareness that helps us see the barrier for what it is. And I can tell that having you bring to my attention the stress hormone phenomenon that we all feel…and loathe…and often feel desperate to instantly get relief from – just having you point it out will help me in those moments; when the flood happens in my own brain, it will be easier now for me to avoid doing what we all probably do too often – wrench ourselves from the negative, yucky stress hormone feeling by making a regrettable, hurtful action toward the person on the other end of the difficult conversation at hand. And when that flood may be happening inside the person I’m interacting with, I’ll have the awareness to do the kinds of things you wrote about to alleviate discomfort and pressure and potentially diffuse what otherwise might have become an explosion. Thank you again.

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