{"id":10,"date":"2012-12-09T16:48:24","date_gmt":"2012-12-09T22:48:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=10"},"modified":"2023-05-19T06:47:04","modified_gmt":"2023-05-19T11:47:04","slug":"stop-your-kid-from-whining","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/stop-your-kid-from-whining\/","title":{"rendered":"Want Your Kid to Stop Whining? 7 Responses That Actually Work"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"meta-desc\">Inside: Ignoring your child&rsquo;s whining won&rsquo;t make it stop. But here are 7 powerful responses from experts about how to stop whining from your child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My daughter is awfully mature for being just four years old. But when she wants something or feels wronged in some way, her voice veers into nasal territory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She wants to watch another movie, she wants to wear her tutu to bed, she wants to open the garage herself, she doesn&rsquo;t need to go to the bathroom, you didn&rsquo;t give her the right &ldquo;secret password&rdquo; to get out the door in the morning when you&rsquo;re <em>already<\/em> running late &ndash; and she didn&rsquo;t actually tell you what the password is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As she gets older, she&rsquo;ll naturally get better at catching herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But in the meantime when the whining starts, I say: &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry, I can&rsquo;t understand what you&rsquo;re saying. Can you try saying it in a different way?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Usually, she can right her tone on the first try, but on a tough day it takes two or three times for her to stop whining. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">This trick helped <strong>a lot<\/strong>, but it didn&rsquo;t completely get her to stop whining.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"yellowbox\"><strong>Bonus:<\/strong> As a bonus for joining my weekly newsletter, <a class=\"modal-trigger\" href=\"#get-printable-whining\">get a free cheat sheet<\/a> of 10 positive and effective ways to respond next time your child starts whining.<\/p>\n\n\n<style>#kt-modal20351_2c0632-b9 .kt-blocks-modal-link{color:var(--global-palette2, #2B6CB0);border-radius:0px;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;border-width:0px 0px 0px 0px;padding:0px 0px 0px 0px;margin:0px 0px 0px 0px;}#kt-modal20351_2c0632-b9 .kt-blocks-modal-link:hover, #kt-modal20351_2c0632-b9 .kt-blocks-modal-link:focus{color:#f96d60;}#kt-modal20351_2c0632-b9 .kt-modal-overlay, 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kt-modal-linkalign-center\" id=\"kt-modal20351_2c0632-b9\"><\/div>\n\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_bf2ae9-bb .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_bf2ae9-bb .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_bf2ae9-bb .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;text-transform:uppercase;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_bf2ae9-bb .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-confession-time\">Confession Time<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Depending on the day, I&rsquo;ve displayed <em>zero<\/em> capability of patience and understanding by:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Snapping back with: &ldquo;Well, you can&rsquo;t always get what you want.&rdquo; (Made the whining worse.)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Responding in a mocking whiny tone. (I felt horrible after.)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ignoring her and hoping she&rsquo;ll stop. (Didn&rsquo;t work.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><a name=\"list\"><\/a>So I went in search of some new tricks to have at my disposal to get my kid to stop whining.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"list\">7 Expert Tips on How to Stop Whining (Plus a Cheat Sheet!)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are a few tips I culled from various parenting experts on how to stop whining from kids. For a free printable cheat sheet of these tips plus three <strong>bonus tips<\/strong>, scroll to the end of this post.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-nip-it-in-the-bud\">1. Nip it in the bud.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a title=\"Why Kids Whine and How to Stop Them\" href=\"http:\/\/www.webmd.com\/parenting\/guide\/why-kids-whine-and-how-to-stop-them\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">webmd.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>To avoid whining, [pediatrician Laurel Schultz, MD] advises parents not to wait until children are in distress to acknowledge them. &ldquo;It&rsquo;s important to respond to that first bid for attention, if you can,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;If you are on the phone or in the middle of a conversation, make eye contact with your child and put a finger up, so she knows you&rsquo;ll be with her in a minute. Then give your child your attention as soon as you can politely do so.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-empathize-before-you-lecture\">2. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Empathize before you lecture.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.parents.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">parents.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Don&rsquo;t say: &ldquo;You can&rsquo;t always get what you want.&rdquo; Yes, it&rsquo;s tempting to start humming that Rolling Stones tune, but what you really need to do is show empathy &ndash; at least before the whining becomes a full-blown tantrum. &ldquo;Say, &lsquo;It does look like a fun toy, and I bet you&rsquo;d really like it. Should we add it to your birthday list or would you like to save your allowance money for it?'&rdquo; says [Toni Schutta, a psychologist and parent coach in St. Paul]. &ldquo;This helps kids learn to delay gratification.&rdquo; Plus, this response gives them hope and empowers them, and it teaches them the importance of saving money.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Note: This quote from parents.com is from an article titled &ldquo;Your Kid, Only Less Whiny&rdquo; that&rsquo;s no longer available on the site.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-show-your-child-what-to-aim-for\">3. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Show your child what to aim for.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.askdrsears.com\/topics\/discipline-behavior\/bothersome-behaviors\/whining\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">askdrsears.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Replay for your child how unpleasant [whining] sounds, being careful not to mock. Don&rsquo;t do this when you are both emotional. Do it at a calm time. Whine back: &ldquo;Which do you like, Mommy&rsquo;s sour voice (&lsquo;I don&rsquo;t wanna make supper&rsquo;) or Mommy&rsquo;s sweet voice (&lsquo;Gosh, I&rsquo;m tired. I could use some help&rsquo;)?&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-let-them-know-when-they-got-it-right\">4. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Let them know when they got it right.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.parents.com\/toddlers-preschoolers\/development\/behavioral\/stop-childs-whining\/?page=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">parents.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;Parents always point out, &lsquo;That&rsquo;s not a nice voice&rsquo; but often don&rsquo;t provide enough positive reinforcement,&rdquo; says [Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of Parents Do Make a Difference]. You might say, &ldquo;Thanks for using your normal voice&rdquo; or &ldquo;My ears love that voice.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-5-don-t-ignore-the-whining\">5. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Don&rsquo;t ignore the whining.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.parents.com\/toddlers-preschoolers\/development\/behavioral\/deal-with-whining-children\/?page=1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">parents.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Put away the earplugs and take action. &ldquo;Kids can whine all day, easily outlasting a parent who is trying to tune it out,&rdquo; says Rene Hackney, Ph.D., a developmental psychologist in Alexandria, Virginia. &ldquo;The longer you let your child complain, the more determined she&rsquo;ll become to get her way.&rdquo; Instead, help your child understand that her whining voice is very hard to listen to. You can say, &ldquo;I can&rsquo;t understand you when you whine. If you want to tell me how you feel, then I need you to use your regular voice.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-6-be-playful\">6. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Be playful.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&rsquo;s a foolproof <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/warning-kids-shopping\/\">magic trick to stop whining<\/a> that&rsquo;s worked for us when we&rsquo;re out running errands. From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2007\/HEALTH\/parenting\/04\/26\/par.no.whining\/index.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">cnn.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Debbie Granick of St. Louis uses a &ldquo;whine&rdquo; cup, or bowl or bucket or whatever&rsquo;s at hand. &ldquo;Whenever one of them starts, I say, &lsquo;Here, go pour out your whine and bring me your regular voice.&rsquo; It gets a smile, or at least that &lsquo;Oh, Mom&rsquo; look, and then they&rsquo;ll usually change their tone.&rdquo; She then thanks her child for using a &ldquo;pleasant&rdquo; voice. Or whisper your answer back. &ldquo;You may have to whisper it several times, but your child will have to be quiet to hear you, and a lot of times he&rsquo;ll mimic your tone of voice,&rdquo; says Karen Shaffer, a mom of three in Highland, California.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-7-reconnect-for-a-few-minutes\">7. <meta charset=\"utf-8\">Reconnect for a few minutes.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>From <a href=\"http:\/\/www.webmd.com\/parenting\/guide\/why-kids-whine-and-how-to-stop-them\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">webmd.com<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;Often whining signals it&rsquo;s time to reconnect with your child.&rdquo; To do that, [educator and developmental psychologist Becky Bailey, PhD] advises parents to spend some focused time together reading, cooking a meal, or doing something else the child enjoys. &ldquo;A few minutes connecting with your child once or twice a day can make a huge difference for families dealing with difficult behaviors,&rdquo; Bailey says.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>This last tip is <strong>pure gold<\/strong>, which is why I created these&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\">Family Connection Cards<\/a> based on the science of what actually works when you need to reconnect with your child. These cards remove the mental burden of figuring out&nbsp;<em>how<\/em>&nbsp;to connect with your child so you can just focus on nurturing your bond with your child. At any point during your day, you can pick a card to get a quick and simple idea for connecting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And in just&nbsp;<strong>10 minutes<\/strong>&nbsp;a day, these powerful cards will make your child feel absolutely loved and stop the whining and power struggles caused by disconnection.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" data-pin-nopin=\"true\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px.jpg\" alt=\"The best 10-minute fix when you need to reconnect with your child\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px.jpg\"><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">The best 10-minute fix when you need to reconnect with your child:&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\">Family Connection Cards<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-get-your-free-cheat-sheet\">Get Your Free Cheat Sheet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>To help you remember these tips in the moment, I put together a free cheat sheet for you about how to stop whining. The cheat sheet includes all the ideas inside this post, plus three <strong>bonus<\/strong> tips:<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Get the cheat sheet<\/strong>. You&rsquo;ll get the printable, plus join my weekly newsletter! Just <a href=\"#get-printable-whining\" class=\"modal-trigger\">click here to get it and subscribe<\/a>.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Print<\/strong>. Any paper will do the trick, but <a title=\"Neenah Exact Vellum Bristol\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B006P1ER8O\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B006P1ER8O&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=hyhf-whining-20&amp;linkId=UFDCVHLAVA6QNCMF\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow noreferrer\">card stock<\/a>&dagger; would be ideal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Hang your cheat sheet<\/strong> somewhere handy like on the fridge or on the bathroom wall where you escape when the whining drives you crazy.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"meta-desc\"><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> This site is reader-supported. When you buy through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&rsquo;s a sneak peek of your cheat sheet:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a class=\"modal-trigger\" href=\"#get-printable-whining\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"200\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/whining-cheat-sheet-preview-sm.png\" alt=\"Whining Cheat Sheet\" class=\"wp-image-8007\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/whining-cheat-sheet-preview-sm.png 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/whining-cheat-sheet-preview-sm-300x94.png 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/whining-cheat-sheet-preview-sm-560x175.png 560w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/whining-cheat-sheet-preview-sm.png\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-want-more\">Want More?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Still need more advice for how to stop whining? 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