{"id":11115,"date":"2017-04-24T07:50:40","date_gmt":"2017-04-24T12:50:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=11115"},"modified":"2023-01-28T08:33:17","modified_gmt":"2023-01-28T14:33:17","slug":"feeling-unattractive-after-having-a-baby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/feeling-unattractive-after-having-a-baby\/","title":{"rendered":"To My Husband, After I’ve Had Babies"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Inside: If you’ve been feeling unattractive after having a baby, this letter from one mom to her husband will help you learn how to feel good about yourself again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Can you remember the time we took that vacation to a tropical island? We joked and laughed and drank fruity frozen cocktails. I wore a bikini, and we had sex in the middle of the afternoon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seems like forever<\/strong> ago. Before my stretch marks and C-section scar. Before I worried all the time about whether our babies were eating enough vegetables and if they would sleep through the night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can almost<\/em> remember the confidence I had. Just yanking off my pool dress. Tossing it on the chair like I never needed it. I cling to that pool dress now. Like my life depends on it, I cling to that dress. Just like I cling to the memories of that vacation. Of how I felt so free and comfortable in my own skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My skin feels different<\/strong> now. Almost unrecognizable. Like I’m stuck in someone else’s body. Someone whose body is out of control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mood swings. Loose skin. Hot, then cold, no hot. Very, very<\/em> hot. Stretch marks. Whose body am I wearing? Why are they so hormonal? And where is my fruity cocktail???<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"When<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

I Didn’t Expect This<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I thought I would bounce back. I was young! I was supposed<\/em> to give birth and hit the beach the next month.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wasn’t supposed to look like this<\/strong>. Or feel like this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was supposed to look like I was 24 again. The same girl you dated for years before we got pregnant. The girl who never cared if we left the lights on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That girl never<\/strong> came back. She took my confidence. She ran with my flat stomach. She took all the good parts of me, and now she’s gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Related: 150 Conversation Starters for Couples That Will Make You Feel Closer Than Ever<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

\"My<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

My Confession to You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I cringe. I cringe sometimes when you try to touch me. When you walk into the bathroom after I shower, I panic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don’t look. Don’t see me like this.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I see all those confident moms proud<\/strong> of their “stripes” and of how they look postpartum, but I feel embarrassed. So shy and unsure of myself in the body I was left with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After two pregnancies. After waking up three times a night for months at a time. Each time, eating a cookie on the way to the nursery because it made me feel better. And I deserved to at least<\/em> feel a little better if I was missing out on all that sleep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was left with a body that won’t fit in any of my designer jeans. Jeans that now crowd the corner of my closet. Jeans I won’t give away because I still<\/strong> have faith in myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I still pray the old me comes back. Maybe I’ll wake up one day and see her in the mirror. With her wrinkle-free forehead and perky boobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"What<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

But Then There’s You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Meet the postpartum me. Two times over. This is how I feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you<\/strong>? You tell me otherwise. Day in and day out, you tell me how beautiful I am. How you don’t see the extra 15 pounds. When I eat the entire bag of potato chips, you never judge me. And you never speak a word of my mood swings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You love me just the same. If not more<\/em>. You have the confidence in me that I lost. You carefully push me to be the best version of myself. This new version of myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I have to wonder: If you can love her…why can’t I?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s where I’m at. Trying to love myself once again<\/strong>. Trying to make this new person the best person. Trying to accept the different parts of me and to appreciate my body for what it has done. It isn’t easy to accept these changes, but I’m trying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so I thank you. For loving me. No matter what I look like or how I feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for always thinking I’m the prettiest. The best. The sexiest. Even when I don’t feel like it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m going to work hard on loving myself the way you love me. Because the way you love me is the greatest way of all. That girl with the flat stomach had no idea how lucky she was to have you, but I sure do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get your copy now: 150 Conversation Starters for Couples That Will Make You Feel Closer Than Ever<\/a><\/h6>\n\n\n\n

Your Turn<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What helped you when you were feeling unattractive after having a baby? Share in a comment below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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