{"id":11186,"date":"2017-05-10T16:00:31","date_gmt":"2017-05-10T21:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=11186"},"modified":"2023-12-30T12:17:04","modified_gmt":"2023-12-30T18:17:04","slug":"angry-mother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/angry-mother\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Being an Angry Mom Right Now\u2014Using 5 Hair Ties"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"meta-desc\">Inside: It&rsquo;s normal to feel like an angry mother sometimes. But if you&rsquo;re snapping at your kid more than you feel comfortable with, grab 5 hair ties and do this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A couple months ago while my husband and I were making dinner, my toddler walked up to me and held one hand up for me to see, fingers spread out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Hey, sweetie.&rdquo; I could see something dark on her fingers, but I wasn&rsquo;t close enough to see what it was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I stepped closer. &ldquo;Oh no.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What?&rdquo; Ty asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I turned and ran in the <strong>opposite<\/strong> direction towards the closet where we keep the diapers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And in my rush, I missed seeing something in my path. My feet got tangled up, and I hit the floor, just barely catching myself with my hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I looked back to see what tripped me up. My preschooler&rsquo;s shoes, left right in the middle of the hallway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Bailey!&rdquo; I yelled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I stood up and grabbed a diaper, then scooped up my toddler like a sack of potatoes and headed towards the living room floor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Bailey!&rdquo; <strong>Louder<\/strong> this time. She must have been upstairs in the kids&rsquo; playroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I bent down to start the diaper change, my knee throbbed from the fall. &ldquo;Bailey!&rdquo; Even louder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Adrenaline coursed through my veins because of the poop-mergency. Because of the fall. Because I was being ignored.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"yellowbox\"><strong>Bonus:<\/strong>&nbsp;As a bonus for joining my weekly newsletter,&nbsp;<a class=\"modal-trigger\" href=\"#get-printable-positive-words\">get a free cheat sheet<\/a>&nbsp;of 75 positive things to say to your child that will make them feel loved.<\/p>\n\n\n<style>#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-blocks-modal-link{color:var(--global-palette2, #2B6CB0);border-radius:0px;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;border-width:0px 0px 0px 0px;padding:0px 0px 0px 0px;margin:0px 0px 0px 0px;}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-blocks-modal-link:hover, #kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-blocks-modal-link:focus{color:#f96d60;}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay{background:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.6);}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-overlay{-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container{width:100%;max-width:700px;-ms-flex-pack:flex-start;justify-content:flex-start;text-align:left;-ms-flex-align:flex-start;align-items:flex-start;}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container{padding-top:30px;padding-right:30px;padding-bottom:30px;padding-left:30px;margin-top:10px;margin-right:10px;margin-bottom:10px;margin-left:10px;}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container{background:var(--global-palette9, #ffffff);border-top-left-radius:3px;border-top-right-radius:3px;border-bottom-right-radius:3px;border-bottom-left-radius:3px;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container{width:100%;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-container{width:100%;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}#kt-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content21062_af792d-1d .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-modal aligncenter kt-modal-linkalign-center\" id=\"kt-modal21062_af792d-1d\"><\/div>\n\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id11186_f7d14d-9a .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id11186_f7d14d-9a .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id11186_f7d14d-9a .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;text-transform:uppercase;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id11186_f7d14d-9a .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-and-then-she-peeked-around-the-corner\">And Then She Peeked Around the Corner<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What, Mommy?&rdquo; Innocence on her little face, not malice. But I missed it because I was hopped up on stress hormones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;You can&rsquo;t leave your shoes in the hallway like that! I tripped and fell because you didn&rsquo;t put your shoes away.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Her chin dropped to her chest. &ldquo;Sorry.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Don&rsquo;t be sorry. Just don&rsquo;t do that again.&rdquo; I flinched at my sharp words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She turned and walked away, head still hanging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After I finished up the diaper change and sent the toddler on her way, I sat there and <strong>couldn&rsquo;t<\/strong> hold it back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The shame spilled over onto my cheeks and then my lap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>What&rsquo;s wrong with me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395182704\" data-pin-description=\"Tired of feeling angry and frustrated with your kids all the time? This positive parenting hack will break your angry mom habit once and for all so you can be a calmer parent and enjoy motherhood. If you lose your temper on a regular basis, this is the parenting help you need to stop being angry all the time and learn how to have more patience with your kids. #parenting #parentingtips #parentinghacks #angermanagement #emotions #motherhood #momlife\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/discipline-your-child-sad-kid-steps.jpg\" alt=\"The impact of my words\" class=\"wp-image-10238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/discipline-your-child-sad-kid-steps.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/discipline-your-child-sad-kid-steps-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/discipline-your-child-sad-kid-steps.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/donnieray\/25771614245\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Donnie Ray Jones<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-here-s-the-disconnect\">Here&rsquo;s the Disconnect<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>My personal goal is to talk to my kids with the <em>same<\/em> level of respect and kindness that I use to talk to my husband. The good news is that for the most part, I do talk to my oldest and my youngest that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But my poor middle child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Something about the preschooler-ness of my preschooler was turning me into an angry mother <strong>every<\/strong> time I opened my mouth to talk to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I needed help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-hair-ties-to-the-rescue-for-every-angry-mother\">Hair Ties to the Rescue for Every Angry Mother<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>How many times have you set a goal &ndash; to exercise more, or to eat healthier, or to stop watching <em>Friends<\/em> re-runs on Netflix so you can get to bed at a decent hour &ndash; only to revert back to the status quo after a few days or a couple weeks?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is where habits will save you. They work because they put your brain on <strong>autopilot<\/strong> so you don&rsquo;t even have to muster up the willpower to do something. You just go through your normal routine, and it happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Brushing your teeth, taking a shower, and guzzling that first cup of coffee in the morning are all examples of things you might do on autopilot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"407\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395182704\" data-pin-description=\"Tired of feeling angry and frustrated with your kids all the time? This positive parenting hack will break your angry mom habit once and for all so you can be a calmer parent and enjoy motherhood. If you lose your temper on a regular basis, this is the parenting help you need to stop being angry all the time and learn how to have more patience with your kids. #parenting #parentingtips #parentinghacks #angermanagement #emotions #motherhood #momlife\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png\" alt=\"Happy You, Happy Family\" class=\"wp-image-12354\" style=\"width:225px;height:305px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm-221x300.png 221w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Unfortunately for me, I&rsquo;d developed a <strong>bad habit<\/strong> of talking sharply to my preschooler. My brain was on autopilot headed in the <em>wrong direction<\/em> towards being an angry mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I flipped open my book <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\">Happy You, Happy Family<\/a> to the chapter titled &ldquo;Break the Bad Habits&rdquo; and re-read it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And I realized the solution to breaking my bad habit: hair ties.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-let-me-explain\">Let Me Explain<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Visual cues are a <strong>powerful<\/strong> science-backed tool that will remind you to avoid a bad habit when you&rsquo;re most likely to slip back into it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, if you were trying to eat healthier, you could leave a bright Post-It Note on the fridge to remind yourself that &ldquo;Snack = veggies only.&rdquo; Or if you were trying to start a morning exercise habit, you could set your workout clothes on your nightstand the night before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I decided my visual cue would be 5 hair ties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why? Because a few years ago, I&rsquo;d read a blog post about <a href=\"http:\/\/ljskool.com\/how-to-discipline-a-child-the-rubber-band-method\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">using rubber bands<\/a> as a visual parenting cue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This isn&rsquo;t a new idea. But I added my own research-backed spin to pack an <strong>even bigger<\/strong> punch to knock down that angry mother habit once and for all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Get Your Copy + Bonus Workbook: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\">Happy You, Happy Family<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-stop-being-an-angry-mother-with-5-hair-ties\">How to Stop Being an Angry Mother With 5 Hair Ties<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&rsquo;ve been snapping at your kid more than you feel comfortable with, follow these steps:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B00HG0AIUY\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=hyhf-angrymom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=B00HG0AIUY&amp;linkId=3e5d38bcb5375486eb23c5384b404db5\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"200\" height=\"333\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395182704\" data-pin-description=\"Tired of feeling angry and frustrated with your kids all the time? This positive parenting hack will break your angry mom habit once and for all so you can be a calmer parent and enjoy motherhood. If you lose your temper on a regular basis, this is the parenting help you need to stop being angry all the time and learn how to have more patience with your kids. #parenting #parentingtips #parentinghacks #angermanagement #emotions #motherhood #momlife\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-hair-ties.jpg\" alt=\"Hair ties to help you stop being an angry mom\" class=\"wp-image-11214\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-hair-ties.jpg 200w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-hair-ties-180x300.jpg 180w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-hair-ties.jpg\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Find 5 hair ties that will be comfortable to wear around your wrist. We bought <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Kenz-Laurenz-Elastic-Ponytail-Holders\/dp\/B018T34DC0?&amp;linkCode=ll1&amp;tag=hyhf-angrymom-20&amp;linkId=5c05f6e73dd162c41231be4f5e807329&amp;language=en_US&amp;ref_=as_li_ss_tl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">this pack of 100<\/a><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> as a stocking stuffer for the girls last year, and by some miracle, we still have a few left, and they&rsquo;re super comfortable on the wrist. But you could use anything that&rsquo;s comfortable and easy to get on and off &ndash; <a href=\"https:\/\/tidd.ly\/3s6saNo\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">thin bangle bracelets like this<\/a> or just plain old rubber bands.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>When your kids wake up in the morning, put the hair ties around one of your wrists. It&rsquo;s <strong>important<\/strong> to wait until they wake up because visual cues won&rsquo;t work very well if they blend into the background and you stop noticing them &ndash; kind of like wallpaper. In other words, once you get used to seeing the cue in your environment, the cue is no longer effective. To prevent that, you&rsquo;ll:\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Put the hair ties on when your kids wake up.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Take them off when you&rsquo;ll be away from your kids, like if you leave the house for work or an appointment or if the kids go down for a nap or leave for school.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>When you&rsquo;re with the kids again, put your hair ties back on. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you catch yourself snapping at your kiddo, move one hair tie to the other wrist. But your goal is actually to make it to the end of the day with <em>all 5 hair ties<\/em> on the original wrist. So what do you do if you slip up&hellip;?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>You can &ldquo;earn back&rdquo; one hair tie by doing 5 simple things to reconnect with your kid. Research shows that to have a healthy relationship, for every one negative interaction <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/the-positive-perspective-dr-gottmans-magic-ratio\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">you need 5 positive interactions<\/a> to balance that out. It&rsquo;s called the Magic 5:1 Ratio, and <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/how-to-connect-with-your-child\/\">here&rsquo;s a list of a few ideas<\/a> for how to get those 5 positive interactions on the books as fast as possible, from a hug to a dance party and everything in between.\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Pro tip:<\/strong> Grab a set of our&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\">Family Connection Cards<\/a> and use those to help you reconnect with your child. The Family Connection Cards are based on the science of what actually works when you need to connect with your child, so you&rsquo;ll both end up feeling loved and connected, plus you&rsquo;ll stop the power struggles caused by disconnection.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"meta-desc\"><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> This site is reader-supported. When you buy through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What if you have <strong>more than one<\/strong> child you&rsquo;re struggling to keep your temper with? Because the goal is to earn back a hair tie as soon as possible after you slip up, you can use one set of 5 hair ties for the whole day. In other words, you don&rsquo;t need a separate set of 5 hair bands for each kid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After you have a negative interaction with one of your kids, try to get 5 positive interactions with that child as soon as possible to reset that hair band to the original wrist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/how-to-connect-with-your-child\/\">How to Connect With Your Child: The Magic of the 5:1 Ratio<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-but-does-this-really-work\">But Does This Really Work?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I was skeptical because&hellip;<em>hair ties<\/em>? Really?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I needed to try something different, and a few hair ties on my wrist certainly wasn&rsquo;t going to hurt anyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As it turned out, the visual cue of the hair ties <strong>coupled with<\/strong> the gentle pressure on my wrist was a magical combination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first morning I wore them at home with my preschooler and toddler, I didn&rsquo;t snap <em>once<\/em>. All I&rsquo;d needed was a little nudge to jolt myself out of that angry mother habit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Later I did snap, but I was <strong>highly<\/strong> motivated to move that hair tie back to the other wrist, so we <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/how-to-connect-with-your-child\/\">repaired the damage<\/a> quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The only negative that came out of it was that later that day, Bailey noticed the hair ties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She pointed to my wrist. &ldquo;Take those off, Mommy.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Why?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Because they&rsquo;re for your <em>hair<\/em>, not your <em>arm<\/em>.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Well, I need to wear these. It&rsquo;s like Wonder Woman and her bracelets. These hair ties give me superpowers and make me a Super Mommy and help me stay happy.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She narrowed her eyes. &ldquo;Really?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Yes, really.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Are you telling the truth?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I nodded. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m telling the truth.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was quiet for a few seconds, staring at my wrist. Then: &ldquo;Can you fly too?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/how-to-reconnect-with-your-child\/\">10 Miracle Phrases to Help You Reconnect With Your Child<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" data-pin-id=\"128000814401929990\" data-pin-description=\"Family traditions matter. Here are the best 35 family rituals for a close-knit family. Inside, you'll uncover the importance of family traditions for a strong family, plus you'll get ideas for family traditions to start with your children on a daily, weekly, or monthly rhythm. #family #familybonding #traditions #familytraditions\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px.jpg\" alt=\"The best 10-minute fix to spending quality time with kids\" class=\"wp-image-15418\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/connection-cards-h-joke-640px.jpg\"><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">The best 10-minute fix to connect with your child: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/connection-cards\/\">Family Connection Cards<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-about-the-wallpaper-effect\">What About the Wallpaper Effect?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I thought all this was a fluke. That it would wear off over time, and I&rsquo;d revert to being an angry mother with my middle kid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Months later, the hair tie hack is <strong>still<\/strong> working wonders. I talk to my preschooler with love and kindness in my voice instead of annoyance and frustration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We even had an unfortunate incident with a black Sharpie, the carpet, and every stuffed animal in the house. But I didn&rsquo;t raise my voice. I didn&rsquo;t use unkind words. I calmly approached my preschooler and asked her what she was working on while gently slipping the marker out of her hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She explained that she was marking the animals so everyone would know they belong to her. Made no sense to me, but I guess ranchers do it to cattle, so why not preschoolers to stuffed animals? (The carpet was just collateral damage.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I kept my tone in check and explained that markers are for paper only. That the marker would <strong>never<\/strong> wash off. Not even from her lovey, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Aurora-World-Miyoni-Pig-Plush\/dp\/B00A2A2V6O?&amp;linkCode=ll1&amp;tag=hyhf-angrymom-20&amp;linkId=45bee7d3ac1164600ffa2bd621942037&amp;language=en_US&amp;ref_=as_li_ss_tl\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Wilbur the pig<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She&rsquo;s used to washable markers washing right off, so hearing that last bit crumpled her little face, making me extra glad I hadn&rsquo;t raised my voice to add insult to injury.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395182704\" data-pin-description=\"Tired of feeling angry and frustrated with your kids all the time? This positive parenting hack will break your angry mom habit once and for all so you can be a calmer parent and enjoy motherhood. If you lose your temper on a regular basis, this is the parenting help you need to stop being angry all the time and learn how to have more patience with your kids. #parenting #parentingtips #parentinghacks #angermanagement #emotions #motherhood #momlife\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-wilbur.jpg\" alt=\"Even a Sharpie didn't bring out the angry mom inside\" class=\"wp-image-11226\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-wilbur.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-wilbur-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/angry-mother-wilbur.jpg\"><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"surprising\">But Here&rsquo;s What I Didn&rsquo;t Expect<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Lately, I&rsquo;ve been flying hair-tie-free here and there to see if my new habit will stick to keep that angry mom voice at bay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And it has. But that&rsquo;s not the surprising part.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ever since I started wearing the hair ties when I&rsquo;m around my preschooler, her behavior has been <strong>night and day<\/strong> different:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>She doesn&rsquo;t take toys from her little sister as much as she used to.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>She doesn&rsquo;t blow up over small hiccups in the day.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>And she&rsquo;s more compliant with my requests, like a reminder to take a potty break, or asking for her to pick up her toys, or suggesting she pretend she&rsquo;s an archeologist and I&rsquo;m the dinosaur bones she&rsquo;s digging for so I can just lay on the couch and close my eyes.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Because I speak to her with more respect, she speaks to me with more respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because every little thing isn&rsquo;t a crisis for me to freak out about, she can look for solutions instead of feeling shame about the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because she <em>feels<\/em> more loved, she&rsquo;s capable of <em>giving<\/em> more love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/discipline-your-child\/\">The 3-Letter Word That Will Overhaul the Way You Discipline Your Child<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-before-you-go-a-cautionary-tale\">Before You Go, A Cautionary Tale<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The night of the Sharpie incident, my husband Ty had a conference call so I flew solo on the bedtime routine. I got all the girls tucked in, then went straight to making a tea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While the water boiled, I took my hair ties off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Approximately 2.7 seconds later, a blonde head appeared next to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I sighed. &ldquo;It&rsquo;s time for bed, Bailey.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I took her by the hand and led her back upstairs to bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This played out 11 more times in the span of an hour. And <strong>even though<\/strong> my hair ties were off, I didn&rsquo;t lose my temper, and I didn&rsquo;t speak sharply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But my frustration must have been clear from my tone punctuated with sighs and the bone-tiredness of my body language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ty finished his call and came into the living room to find me staring at the wall, waiting for the next round.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Bailey&rsquo;s still awake,&rdquo; I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Still?&rdquo; He glanced at the clock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;She may be waiting for a hug and kiss from Daddy before she can settle down. Or maybe she&rsquo;s stressed about Wilbur&rsquo;s marker stains.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He headed upstairs, and after a few minutes, he came back down the stairs chuckling to himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What?&rdquo; I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;I went to tuck her in, and the first thing she said was, &lsquo;Daddy, can you tell Mommy to put her hair ties on?'&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed. &ldquo;What did you say?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;I told her, &lsquo;I think if you just went to sleep, Mommy would be fine.'&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Oh, but that would be too easy.&rdquo; I shook my head. &ldquo;I should probably go smooth things over, huh?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He smiled. &ldquo;It wouldn&rsquo;t hurt.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So I trudged up the stairs for the last time of the night, hopefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I opened the door to her room and stepped on something squishy. I bent over to pick it up. Wilbur the pig.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She&rsquo;s had this pig since she was a baby, she insists Wilbur is a girl just like her, and it goes with her <strong>everywhere<\/strong>. Many a freakout have happened when Wilbur couldn&rsquo;t be located in time for bedtime, or leaving for the airport, or before sitting down to watch <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B009NUVWH8\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=hyhf-angrymom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=B009NUVWH8&amp;linkId=8707c00e2c3d1c84c8fb04a3d4b4a93e\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">Charlotte&rsquo;s Web<\/a> again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Hey sweetie,&rdquo; I said, walking towards the bed. &ldquo;Why is Wilbur on the floor?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Because she&rsquo;s ruined now. She has markers all over her.&rdquo; It was dark, but I could hear the grief in her voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Oh,&rdquo; I said, bending down next to the bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As my eyes adjusted to the dark, I brought Wilbur up to my face. &ldquo;You know what, Bailey?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;These are some really cool tattoos you gave Wilbur.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Tattoos?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Oh yeah. I don&rsquo;t know any other pigs with tattoos like this. It makes her absolutely one-of-a-kind.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She held out her arms, and I tucked Wilbur in under her chin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then we were quiet for a few seconds while I played with her hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was about to stand up, but <strong>then<\/strong>: &ldquo;Mommy?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What, honey?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Do you have your hair ties on?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I smiled. &ldquo;No, I don&rsquo;t.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;You&rsquo;re a Super Mommy anyway without them.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A sudden lump in my throat made it impossible to speak, so I just hugged her for a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As it turns out, that 14th trip up the stairs was the charm for Bailey&hellip;and for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-get-your-free-cheat-sheet\">Get Your Free Cheat Sheet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>After a negative interaction, you feel the distance between you and your child, but it&rsquo;s not always easy to know how to close the gap with your child so you both feel loved and connected. Use this cheat sheet of 75 positive things to say to your child so you can reconnect with your child after those tough moments and &ldquo;earn&rdquo; back a hair tie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Get the free cheat sheet<\/strong>. Join my weekly-ish newsletter and as a bonus, you&rsquo;ll get the printable! Just <a class=\"modal-trigger\" href=\"#get-printable-positive-words\">click here to get it and subscribe<\/a>.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Print<\/strong>. Any paper will do the trick, but <a title=\"Neenah Exact Vellum Bristol\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B006P1Z59O\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=hyhf-positive-words-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=B006P1Z59O&amp;linkId=ad4fb38469b01abc7e75c711bce9e09e\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">card stock<\/a> would be ideal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Hang your cheat sheet<\/strong> somewhere handy like the fridge. See the <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/positive-words-for-kids\/#h-but-first-beware-of-this-gotcha\">But First, Beware of This Gotcha<\/a> section in this post for ideas on how to keep the reminder fresh and effective.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Say a phrase to your child<\/strong>. A couple ideas for how to use the cheat sheet: You could set yourself a personal goal of a certain number of positive things to say to your child every day, or you could mark off each phrase as you use it and try to get through the whole list within a certain period of time.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&rsquo;s a sneak peek of your printable cheat sheet:<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a class=\"modal-trigger\" href=\"#get-printable-positive-words\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"420\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395414973\" data-pin-description=\"For a strong relationship with your child, get this free printable of the most powerful positive things to say to your child. These positive words for kids will fill your kid's tank with unconditional love. But first, a WARNING: When it comes to how to encourage your child, simple positive affirmations for kids aren't enough. Avoid the pitfalls explained here to make sure positive messages for kids actually work. #positiveparenting #parenting #parentingtips #kids #affirmationsforkids \" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/positive-words-for-kids-preview.png\" alt=\"Preview of printable: 75 positive words for kids\" class=\"wp-image-14354\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/positive-words-for-kids-preview.png 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/positive-words-for-kids-preview-300x197.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/positive-words-for-kids-preview.png\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-catch-yourself-before-you-lose-your-cool\">How to Catch Yourself Before You Lose Your Cool<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>After my family welcomed our third little one into the mix, we became a family of five with a second-grader, a toddler, and a newborn. Even though I could have used more sleep and way more coffee, we were happy. Then my husband&rsquo;s paternity leave ended, and I was at home with the kids all day. As time wore on, my patience became <em>razor<\/em> thin. And one day, I just <strong>broke<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"407\" data-pin-id=\"128000814395182704\" data-pin-description=\"Tired of feeling angry and frustrated with your kids all the time? This positive parenting hack will break your angry mom habit once and for all so you can be a calmer parent and enjoy motherhood. If you lose your temper on a regular basis, this is the parenting help you need to stop being angry all the time and learn how to have more patience with your kids. #parenting #parentingtips #parentinghacks #angermanagement #emotions #motherhood #momlife\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png\" alt=\"Happy You, Happy Family\" class=\"wp-image-12354\" style=\"width:225px;height:305px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm-221x300.png 221w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/happy-you-mockup-book-trans-sm.png\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>The shame burns my cheeks just thinking of that day, even now. But thanks to that experience, I realized I had to make a change. I threw myself into researching how to find happiness in the chaos of parenting. <strong>Something beyond<\/strong> &ldquo;make time for you&rdquo; and &ldquo;exercise more.&rdquo; Because when you&rsquo;re overwhelmed and at your breaking point, you don&rsquo;t need the &ldquo;experts&rdquo; telling you more stuff to do <em>on top of everything else<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&rsquo;s how I discovered the secrets: 10 secrets <strong>every parent<\/strong> should know about being happy. After hearing from hundreds of parents in the same boat as me, I knew I needed to share what I discovered. And so I wrote a book: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\">Happy You, Happy Family<\/a>. In the book, you get a Temper-Taming Toolkit with simple hacks like this to help you keep your cool during those everyday parenting moments that test your patience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/happy-you\">Click here to get your copy plus a bonus workbook<\/a> and start your journey towards finding more happiness as a parent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because the truth is that <strong>happiness won&rsquo;t come<\/strong> from a big promotion at work, or from winning the lottery, or from your kids all learning to put their toys away when they&rsquo;re done playing. Because eventually, you just get used to all that stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>True, lasting happiness comes from a conscious effort <strong>by you<\/strong> to put the right habits in place.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading after-entry-cta\" id=\"h-before-you-go-get-my-free-cheat-sheet-75-nbsp-positive-phrases-every-child-needs-to-hear\">Before you go, get my FREE cheat sheet: <a href=\"#get-printable-positive-words\" class=\"modal-trigger\">75&nbsp;Positive Phrases Every Child Needs to Hear<\/a><\/h6>\n\n\n<style>#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-blocks-modal-link{color:var(--global-palette2, #2B6CB0);border-radius:0px;font-size:16px;line-height:24px;border-width:0px 0px 0px 0px;padding:0px 0px 0px 0px;margin:0px 0px 0px 0px;}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-blocks-modal-link:hover, #kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-blocks-modal-link:focus{color:#f96d60;}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay{background:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.6);}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-overlay{-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container{width:100%;max-width:700px;-ms-flex-pack:flex-start;justify-content:flex-start;text-align:left;-ms-flex-align:flex-start;align-items:flex-start;}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container{padding-top:30px;padding-right:30px;padding-bottom:30px;padding-left:30px;margin-top:10px;margin-right:10px;margin-bottom:10px;margin-left:10px;}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container{background:var(--global-palette9, #ffffff);border-top-left-radius:3px;border-top-right-radius:3px;border-bottom-right-radius:3px;border-bottom-left-radius:3px;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container{width:100%;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-container{width:100%;border-top:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-right:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-bottom:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);border-left:0px solid var(--global-palette3, #1A202C);}#kt-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, #kt-target-modal19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg, .kb-modal-content19878_ef407f-13 .kt-modal-close svg{width:24px;height:24px;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-modal aligncenter kt-modal-linkalign-center\" id=\"kt-modal19878_ef407f-13\"><\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-your-turn\">Your Turn<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>What helps you get back on track when you&rsquo;re feeling like an angry mother? Share in a comment below!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Inside: It&rsquo;s normal to feel like an angry mother sometimes. But if you&rsquo;re snapping at your kid more than you feel comfortable with, grab 5 hair ties and do this. 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