{"id":11510,"date":"2017-08-07T06:00:55","date_gmt":"2017-08-07T11:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=11510"},"modified":"2023-03-03T07:12:33","modified_gmt":"2023-03-03T13:12:33","slug":"how-to-stop-relational-aggression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression\/","title":{"rendered":"Boys And Their Frenemies: What Every Parent Should Know"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"meta-desc\">Inside: Boys have frenemies, too. When you need to know how to stop relational aggression, try these powerful parenting tricks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Girls and their frenemies. &ldquo;Mean&rdquo; girls. Emotional bullying between girls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More and more people are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/im-raising-girls-includers-instead-mean-girls\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">joining<\/a> the <a href=\"http:\/\/lindastade.com\/girls-and-their-frenemies-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">discussion<\/a> on the <strong>important<\/strong> topic of relational aggression in girls, tackling the issues of exclusion, name-calling, the silent treatment, and more. This is a very good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But what about boys?<\/p>\n\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_98dd76-c0 .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-top-width:0px;border-right-width:0px;border-bottom-width:0px;border-left-width:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_98dd76-c0 .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_98dd76-c0 .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;text-transform:uppercase;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_98dd76-c0 .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-this-is-how-boys-deal-with-relational-conflict\">This Is How Boys Deal With Relational Conflict<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you seen the classic movie <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B0128CYOFY\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=B0128CYOFY&amp;linkId=8b87969eb951dbf7b497c3ab013bb3ce\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The Sandlot<\/a><sup>&dagger;<\/sup>? If you haven&rsquo;t, it&rsquo;s perfect for your next family movie night. But for now, I&rsquo;ll give you a quick run-down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"meta-desc\"><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> This site is reader-supported. When you buy through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When Scottie Smalls moves to town in <em>The Sandlot<\/em>, he is the <strong>quintessential<\/strong> new kid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At first, he seems to be an easy target to be picked on, yet he manages to make friends with the neighborhood kids and even approach his biggest fears. Hilarity and bravery ensue. Watching little boys relate to little boys is well documented in this cult classic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&rsquo;ve watched little boys in <strong>real life<\/strong> deal with relational conflict, you&rsquo;ve probably seen emotions popping right to the surface in the form of punching, kicking, physical competition, and more. Boys are physical! We cannot deny that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And yet, boys are also marketed to as physical beings. Bro culture shows boys that being both aggressive and exclusive is expected and valued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" data-pin-id=\"128000814392011988\" data-pin-description=\"This is a MUST read for every boy mom! The truth is that relational aggression happens with boys, not just girls. Here's what it looks like, plus 3 powerful ways parents can stop this kind of emotional bullying.\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-playing-med.jpg\" alt=\"How to deal with relational aggression in boys\" class=\"wp-image-11522\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-playing-med.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-playing-med-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-playing-med.jpg\"><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Surprise With Relational Aggression in Boys<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The truth is that relational conflict between boys also includes the type of behaviors we associate with girls: exclusion, name-calling, and spreading rumors. Some <a href=\"https:\/\/psmag.com\/social-justice\/mean-boys-social-bullying-isnt-just-girls-98119\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">research suggests<\/a> this type of aggression is even <strong>more<\/strong> common in boys than girls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>Here are a few examples of <a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Relational_aggression\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">what relational aggression looks like<\/a> in all kids&mdash;boys and girls:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Teasing or humiliating someone in front of others<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Spreading rumors or gossip<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Excluding others from social activities<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ignoring someone or giving the &ldquo;silent treatment&rdquo;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, &ldquo;You&rsquo;re not invited to my birthday party!&rdquo; is a favorite playground dis that I hear between the boys in my sons&rsquo; classes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/raise-kind-kids\/\">The Secret to Raising Your Kids to Be Kind<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"426\" data-pin-id=\"128000814392011988\" data-pin-description=\"This is a MUST read for every boy mom! The truth is that relational aggression happens with boys, not just girls. Here's what it looks like, plus 3 powerful ways parents can stop this kind of emotional bullying.\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-sad-boy.jpg\" alt=\"Boys: How to deal with frenemies\" class=\"wp-image-11519\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-sad-boy.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-sad-boy-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-sad-boy-340x225.jpg 340w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-sad-boy.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/adorable-boy-child-face-227609\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Trinity Kubassek<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3 Powerful Ways to Deal With Relational Aggression in Boys<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>People&mdash;boys and girls&mdash;are tribal. We all want to define ourselves between &ldquo;them&rdquo; and &ldquo;us,&rdquo; and that includes adults.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Often little boys&rsquo; relational squabbles are settled with a race on the monkey bars, but sometimes &ldquo;us&rdquo; and &ldquo;them&rdquo; manifests itself with social stigma. That&rsquo;s when our boys need <strong>more<\/strong> guidance from us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are three positive steps every parent can take to stop relational aggression in boys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Beware This Phrase<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Boys will be boys.&rdquo; I admit I <em>will<\/em> use this phrase when my children come over to your house and destroy it. I will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or when we watch <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B0128CYOFY\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=B0128CYOFY&amp;linkId=9b923f4a47c7c948baf89dc62777d41d\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The Sandlot<\/a> and Smalls&rsquo; bravery leaves no stone unturned&mdash;I squeal every time, &ldquo;Don&rsquo;t go over that fence!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when we use &ldquo;boys will be boys&rdquo; to explain away bad behavior, in this case exclusive behavior or bullying, this phrase becomes a <strong>thorn<\/strong> in the side of boy moms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because it takes away any expectation we have of how respectful boys can be. If boys are just going to be a mess, why try? It also doesn&rsquo;t give the expectation that boys can amount to much. What if &ldquo;boys will be boys&rdquo; could mean compassionate, powerful, alert agents for change?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unfortunately, the phrase usually <em>doesn&rsquo;t<\/em> mean that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When this phrase is meant to explain away exclusive behavior, it makes bullying explainable. But bullying is best addressed by parents while our children are <strong>young<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\">\namzn_assoc_placement = \"adunit0\";\namzn_assoc_search_bar = \"false\";\namzn_assoc_tracking_id = \"idealmom-20\";\namzn_assoc_ad_mode = \"manual\";\namzn_assoc_ad_type = \"smart\";\namzn_assoc_marketplace = \"amazon\";\namzn_assoc_region = \"US\";\namzn_assoc_title = \"The Best Anti-Bullying Books for Kids\";\namzn_assoc_linkid = \"9215c4a6285fcb29ebcde7c46f89af83\";\namzn_assoc_asins = \"1582464502,0525428259,081182778X,0439206375\";\n<\/script><br>\n<script src=\"\/\/z-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/onejs?MarketPlace=US\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p>For some positive stories that will help you tackle this in your home, kids love these picture books:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1582464502\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=1582464502&amp;linkId=955261ab74cae7d6af221c519d2edc9c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The Invisible Boy<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0525428259\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=0525428259&amp;linkId=bd026763c5e341950c3ec4a8eb35365c\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Poor Little Guy<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/081182778X\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=081182778X&amp;linkId=641476e155779a8a5857f1cabaf62820\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Enemy Pie<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0439206375\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=0439206375&amp;linkId=7c040de1b2f1093825ef1df990a2ea57\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">The Recess Queen<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0399234160\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=0399234160&amp;linkId=110d3b589fb4ada901e75b433dbbd824\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>For older kids, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0375869026\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=idealmom-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;creativeASIN=0375869026&amp;linkId=bd26a479477167e7679f02148e89c77a\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Wonder<\/a> is a fantastic book. For more ideas, check out <a href=\"https:\/\/www.weareteachers.com\/14-must-read-anti-bullying-books-for-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">this list of anti-bullying books<\/a> for kids of all ages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\">\namzn_assoc_placement = \"adunit0\";\namzn_assoc_search_bar = \"false\";\namzn_assoc_tracking_id = \"idealmom-20\";\namzn_assoc_ad_mode = \"manual\";\namzn_assoc_ad_type = \"smart\";\namzn_assoc_marketplace = \"amazon\";\namzn_assoc_region = \"US\";\namzn_assoc_title = \"The Best Anti-Bullying Books for Kids\";\namzn_assoc_linkid = \"9215c4a6285fcb29ebcde7c46f89af83\";\namzn_assoc_asins = \"0399234160,0399246525,0375869026,1524766496\";\n<\/script><br>\n<script src=\"\/\/z-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/onejs?MarketPlace=US\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/picture-books-about-friendship\/\">The Ultimate List of the Best Picture Books About Friendship<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"425\" data-pin-id=\"128000814392011988\" data-pin-description=\"This is a MUST read for every boy mom! The truth is that relational aggression happens with boys, not just girls. Here's what it looks like, plus 3 powerful ways parents can stop this kind of emotional bullying.\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-baseball.jpg\" alt=\"How to deal with emotional bullying in boys\" class=\"wp-image-11520\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-baseball.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-baseball-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-baseball-340x225.jpg 340w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-baseball.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"https:\/\/pixabay.com\/en\/children-boys-fencing-preview-958474\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Dariusz Sankowski<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Open the Door<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Boys and girls need <a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_to_help_diverse_students_find_common_ground\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">opportunities to practice empathy<\/a> so they can understand relational dynamics and community life. For example, when your son feels left out:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Ask him to tell you how he&rsquo;s feeling.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Brainstorm with him on ways he could include others so other friends don&rsquo;t feel left out.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Talk about the importance and responsibility of friendship.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Some of these frenemy behaviors come from maturity. It takes time for kids to be honest and bold about unfair treatment in a group setting. Making this <strong>clear<\/strong> in a one-on-one setting when kids are young might just set that brain map toward caring for others. Another way to practice empathy is to use these <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/raise-kind-kids\/\">free printable &ldquo;What Would You Do?&rdquo; cards<\/a> with your kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When your son is the one doing the leaving out, spend time with him imagining what it would feel like to have the Velcro shoe on the other foot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When your son is neither aggressor nor victim, he can be an agent and example for change, or at least a friend to the one who needs it. Encourage him to imagine the feelings of others, <strong>even<\/strong> when he&rsquo;s just an observer of the relational aggression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/teaching-empathy\/\">3 Simple Steps for Teaching Empathy in the Most Authentic Way<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" data-pin-id=\"128000814392011988\" data-pin-description=\"This is a MUST read for every boy mom! The truth is that relational aggression happens with boys, not just girls. Here's what it looks like, plus 3 powerful ways parents can stop this kind of emotional bullying.\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-friends-med.jpg\" alt=\"How to stop relational aggression in boys\" class=\"wp-image-11523\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-friends-med.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-friends-med-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/how-to-stop-relational-aggression-boys-friends-med.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/photos\/I7BQ8hww9bE?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Kevin Gent<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Ask This Magic Question<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Research suggests that when we can find commonalities with someone else, we&rsquo;re <a href=\"http:\/\/ggia.berkeley.edu\/practice\/shared_identity\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">more likely to be kind and generous<\/a> to that person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When your boy is struggling with relational aggression, no matter what side of it he&rsquo;s on, ask <strong>this question<\/strong> to get him thinking:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What do you have in common?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When my kids are focused on what&rsquo;s driving them crazy about each other, I try to steer the conversation to what we <em>can<\/em> get along about. Where can we agree? How can we play? What are some things we are all good at, or things we all enjoy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This <strong>simple<\/strong> step cultivates respect between kids and helps them see the other side as &ldquo;us&rdquo; instead of &ldquo;them.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Stop Relational Aggression in Boys Once and For All<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When Scottie Smalls moves to town in <em>The Sandlot<\/em>, he&rsquo;s the new kid. On the outside he&rsquo;s an easy target for the relational aggression, but he manages to make friends with the neighborhood kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Why? <\/strong> Because the leader of the pack makes a decision to <em>include<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Above all, we can stop relational aggression by raising a culture of includers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We don&rsquo;t all need to be the same, but we <strong>can<\/strong> all show empathy. 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