Sometimes we are going to lose our cool. Like when I held the tablet out the car window and threatened to let it break into one million pieces if EVERYONE DIDN’T LISTEN UP RIGHT NOW. I scared them so badly that then I spent\u00a045 minutes comforting them.<\/p>\n
I’m going to call this bonding.<\/em><\/p>\n Somedays we might\u00a0not want anyone to touch us. We won’t\u00a0want them to tap our face, or jump on our back, or caress our cheek tenderly. We won’t want to share our skin AT ALL on that day, and then we might\u00a0wonder if Queen Cersei is\u00a0more maternal than us.<\/p>\n Sometimes there’s going to be a thing “that good moms do” that we\u00a0don’t want to do. Like\u00a0crafts for example. Mostly\u00a0I would rather light my own hair on fire than do a craft.<\/p>\n Sometimes we will want to escape from them. We will want to go somewhere without questions or sticky hands or crumbs. We will want to run and run and run and hopefully end up somewhere that has wine and back massages. If not, then\u00a0Target\u00a0will also work.<\/p>\n Sometimes we are going to feel more tired than loving. Like when my kids\u00a0touch literally everything in a\u00a0public restroom and I\u00a0wonder if it is cool to use hand sanitizer on their entire body.<\/p>\n Sometimes we\u00a0will spend a whole day just saying, “I just said DON’T\u00a0do that!”<\/p>\n The thing is…<\/p>\n Sometimes we are just going to show up without any warm feelings, or nice thoughts, and it will still be love. <\/em><\/p>\n It will be an incredibly strong and resilient\u00a0kind of love. It will be a mom kind of love.<\/em><\/p>\n Sometimes we are going to clean a disgusting toilet while also having an identity crisis (WHAT HAVE I DONE WITH MY LIFE)\u00a0and it will be love<\/em>.<\/p>\n Sometimes we are going to tell them “no” and they will not act loved.\u00a0<\/em>They will act very very mad and neglected, but it\u00a0will still be love.<\/em><\/p>\n Sometimes we are going to cry in our pillow at night wondering if we are doing a good enough job…and it will be love.<\/em><\/p>\n Our love is often unseen and unsung, but it is real and true and beautiful.<\/p>\n I don’t care what your day was like today. I don’t care if you lost your temper or you never put on a bra or if you didn’t get out of bed…you are doing a great job. I SEE YOU. I see you putting bandaids on invisible owies and I see you microwaving quesadillas when you are long past running out of steam. I SEE YOU. I see you singing one last bedtime song when all you want to do is eat an entire Toblerone alone in the bath. I SEE YOU.<\/p>\n I also see that sometimes you don’t<\/em> sing that last song. That’s OKAY too.<\/p>\n I\u00a0hope you feel proud of the mom that you are. Not the mom you might be one day, not the one you wish you were, but the mom that you are.<\/p>\n Our kids are\u00a0not comparing us\u00a0to a supermom they saw on Facebook or Pinterest. They aren’t wishing we were\u00a0someone else. They aren’t hoping that one day we will get it together and be more organized, and they aren’t embarrassed that we haven’t\u00a0done laundry in three weeks.<\/p>\n No one is harder on us than us.<\/p>\n No one has an impossible standard for us…except for us.<\/p>\n Let’s stop wishing we were someone else. Let’s stop wishing for different strengths and gifts and be the moms\u00a0that we already are. Crafts aren’t my jam. So be it.<\/p>\n Let’s give ourselves a giant break.<\/p>\n As long as we keep them off of Pinterest Birthday Party boards I think everyone is going to be just fine.<\/p>\n To my fellow warriors in the trenches I honor you today.<\/p>\n Today celebrate all your successes and all your wins.<\/p>\n Happy almost Mother’s Day. Now, let’s gear up for some \u00a0burnt toast and average flowers.<\/p>\n I SEE YOU.<\/p>\n XOXO<\/p>\n Jess<\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n For more like this you can follow me here on Wonderoak, like my page on Facebook<\/a>, and follow @wonderoakblog<\/a> on Instagram!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sometimes as Mother’s Day approaches I find myself reflecting on how I’m doing as a Mom, and today, these are my thoughts… We are never going to be perfect. Sometimes we\u00a0are going to be messy, and human, and moody. Sometimes we are going to feel real crappy at this. That’s normal I think. 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