{"id":33694,"date":"2022-07-15T21:41:17","date_gmt":"2022-07-15T21:41:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/?p=33694"},"modified":"2022-07-15T21:53:36","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T21:53:36","slug":"stay-in-your-lane","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/2022\/07\/15\/stay-in-your-lane\/","title":{"rendered":"Stay in your lane."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Something I&#8217;m learning right now (and it&#8217;s not always easy) is that if someone is upset with me, it&#8217;s not always my job to fix it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If I&#8217;ve hurt someone and they approach me about it, I will always do my best to make it right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if I hear whisperings that someone is bothered, or if I hear of unpleasant things said about me when I wasn&#8217;t in the room, those things, they aren&#8217;t my responsibility. And to tell the truth, that&#8217;s hard. It&#8217;s hard to let that go. If I&#8217;m honest, I want everyone to like me, it&#8217;s silly, but it&#8217;s true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But that&#8217;s just not my job and it&#8217;s definitely not my calling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If I focus too much on being likable, I&#8217;m fairly certain I&#8217;m going to lose out on other things that matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m slowly, but surely learning that&#8217;s it&#8217;s not my job to babysit people&#8217;s opinions about me. It&#8217;s not my job to change their minds. It&#8217;s not my job to defend myself or even to be offended.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s my job to stay in my lane. It&#8217;s my job to love as well as I know how. It&#8217;s my job to be humble and approachable if I got it wrong. It&#8217;s my job to be authentic to who I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Love,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jess<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Photo by Liz Lucht <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Something I&#8217;m learning right now (and it&#8217;s not always easy) is that if someone is upset with me, it&#8217;s not always my job to fix it. If I&#8217;ve hurt someone and they approach me about it, I will always do my best to make it right. But if I hear whisperings that someone is bothered, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":31551,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-33694","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/Jess-Mama-Me2018-Jess-Mama-Me2018-0003-e1657921811680.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p6wz1w-8Ls","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33694","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=33694"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33694\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":33696,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33694\/revisions\/33696"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31551"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=33694"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=33694"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wonderoak.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=33694"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}