{"id":4462,"date":"2014-02-13T20:00:26","date_gmt":"2014-02-14T02:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=4462"},"modified":"2023-04-12T17:27:33","modified_gmt":"2023-04-12T22:27:33","slug":"secret-phrase-better-student","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/secret-phrase-better-student\/","title":{"rendered":"Here&#8217;s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"meta-desc\">Inside: Some parents like to tell their child they&rsquo;re smart. But that kind of praise can work against kids. Instead, nurture a growth mindset with this magic phrase.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My 5-year-old struggles when she makes mistakes. Just a hunch, but I think it <em>might<\/em> have something to do with her mother being a perfectionist. Or maybe it&rsquo;s just the nature of my child&rsquo;s own personality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But watching my child be so incredibly hard on herself gives me a renewed sense of urgency to get a handle on my own perfectionist tendencies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She&rsquo;ll say things like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m never going to learn how to read.&rdquo;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&ldquo;Everyone else is better than me.&rdquo;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m the worst kid in the world.&rdquo;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>That last one is like an ice-cold knife sliding into my mama heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"yellowbox\"><strong>Ready for a solution now?<\/strong> Get these fun <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">coloring posters<\/a> for your child to teach them the power of hard work and sticking with a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_5f7f7c-3a .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_5f7f7c-3a .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_5f7f7c-3a .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;text-transform:uppercase;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id_5f7f7c-3a .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-an-eye-opener\">An Eye Opener<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The other night as I was tucking my child in, I asked: &ldquo;What makes someone smart?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Their brain,&rdquo; she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed. &ldquo;That&rsquo;s a good point.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then I asked: &ldquo;What about your baby sister? Is she smart?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;No.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I raised one eyebrow. &ldquo;How will she get smart?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;By learning things.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Yes,&rdquo; I agreed. &ldquo;And by making mistakes, right?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She nodded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We were both quiet for a few seconds. I thought of earlier in the day when she said she&rsquo;d <strong>never<\/strong> learn to read. In response, I picked out an easy reader book and sat down with her. She read the whole thing, needing help on just a handful of words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She pulled the covers up over her shoulders, snapping me out of the memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I asked: &ldquo;What about you? Are you smart?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>A shy little smile. &ldquo;Yes.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Are you as smart as you&rsquo;ll ever be?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;No.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I smiled. &ldquo;How will you get smarter?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m going to learn more things.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;And make mistakes, right?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She nodded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One day, I know I&rsquo;ll get an eye roll instead of a nod, but in the meantime I&rsquo;ll gladly brainwash the perfectionism out of her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-mindset-med.jpg\" alt=\"Here's the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student\" class=\"wp-image-10950\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-mindset-med.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-mindset-med-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-mindset-med.jpg\"><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-there-are-two-kinds-of-people-in-the-world\">There Are Two Kinds of People in the World<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Our conversation that night sparked something for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A few years ago, I volunteered as a mentor to a small group of girls in a second-grade classroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the volunteer training, the educators running the program taught us a concept I&rsquo;d never heard before: <a title=\"Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives\" href=\"http:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/index.php\/2014\/01\/29\/carol-dweck-mindset\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">fixed versus growth mindset<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Children who have a fixed mindset believe that you are as smart as you&rsquo;ll ever be. You can&rsquo;t change how smart you are, no matter how hard you try. And you can&rsquo;t change your personality or how creative you are.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"275\" height=\"184\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-stairs.jpg\" alt=\"Here&rsquo;s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into a Better Student\" class=\"wp-image-4488\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-stairs.jpg 275w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-stairs-200x133.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 275px) 100vw, 275px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-stairs.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/fredflickr\/12164930593\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Frederic Rivollier<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>But children with a growth mindset believe that if you work hard, you can become smarter. These kids <strong>thrive<\/strong> on challenge. Whereas fixed-mindset kids see failure as evidence of not being smart, growth-mindset kids see failure as an opportunity for growing. In fact, they don&rsquo;t even see it as failure. They see it as LEARNING.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Can you <strong>take a guess<\/strong> which kids are most successful in school and in their careers later in life? Which kids have the greatest capacity for happiness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More than 20 years of research shows that the <strong>key to success<\/strong> in school and life is having a growth mindset. In other words, if you believe that trying hard will make you smarter, it will.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>However, if you believe that nothing you do will change how smart you are, it&rsquo;s a self-fulfilling prophecy. What&rsquo;s more, these fixed-mindset kids don&rsquo;t enjoy the learning process. Their mindset even <a title=\"Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives\" href=\"http:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/index.php\/2014\/01\/29\/carol-dweck-mindset\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">drives them to lie<\/a> about their school performance in order to maintain the perception that they are smart. They simply can&rsquo;t handle mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;In one world, effort is a bad thing. It, like failure, means you&rsquo;re not smart or talented. If you were, you wouldn&rsquo;t need effort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the other world, effort is what <strong>makes<\/strong> you smart or talented.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/negative-self-talk-in-children\/\">One Powerful Word That Will Stop Negative Self-Talk in Kids<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-in-the-words-of-a-genius\">In the Words of a Genius<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0345472322\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0345472322&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=hyhf-secretmindsetphrase-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"205\" height=\"315\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book.jpg\" alt=\"Mindset Book\" class=\"wp-image-4473\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book.jpg 205w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book-195x300.jpg 195w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book-190x292.jpg 190w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book-130x200.jpg 130w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 205px) 100vw, 205px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/student-book.jpg\"><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0345472322\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0345472322&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=hyhf-secretmindsetphrase-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mindset: The New Psychology of Success<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>This idea may be hard to accept. The whole concept goes against what a lot of us have believed our whole lives. Myself included.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&rsquo;ve always thought: You&rsquo;re either smart, or you&rsquo;re not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the words of Ron White: &ldquo;You can&rsquo;t fix stupid.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But here&rsquo;s what another famous person had to say on the subject:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;It&rsquo;s not that I&rsquo;m so smart, it&rsquo;s just that I stay with problems longer.&rdquo; &ndash; Albert Einstein<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>If you think Einstein was just being humble, you can read <a title=\"Mindset: The New Psychology of Success\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0345472322\/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0345472322&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=hyhf-secretmindsetphrase-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">this book<\/a><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> to see the years and years of research that proves his point. From <a title=\"Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives\" href=\"http:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/index.php\/2014\/01\/29\/carol-dweck-mindset\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">an article<\/a> about the book:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Although people may differ in every which way &ndash; in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperaments &ndash; everyone can change and grow through application and experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do people with this mindset believe that anyone can be anything, that anyone with proper motivation or education can become Einstein or Beethoven? No, but they believe that <strong>a person&rsquo;s true potential is unknown<\/strong> (and unknowable); that it&rsquo;s impossible to foresee what can be accomplished with years of passion, toil, and training.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"meta-desc\"><sup>&dagger;<\/sup> This site is reader-supported. When you buy through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, duh. As a parent, <em>of course<\/em> you believe that if your child works hard, they can be anything they want to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the problem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our actions as parents don&rsquo;t always support this important growth mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Here&rsquo;s What We&rsquo;re Doing Wrong<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you ever told your kid they&rsquo;re smart? I sure have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And we&rsquo;re not alone. According to <a href=\"http:\/\/nymag.com\/news\/features\/27840\/\" title=\"How Not to Talk to Your Kids\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">one survey<\/a>, 85 percent of American parents think it&rsquo;s important to tell their kids that they&rsquo;re smart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But we need to stop, and here&rsquo;s why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Telling your child &ldquo;You&rsquo;re smart&rdquo; is playing right into the fixed mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In just one of the many studies that shows what happens when you praise your child by saying they&rsquo;re smart, the researchers studied fifth-grade students:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>The researchers would take a single child out of the classroom for a nonverbal IQ test consisting of a series of puzzles &ndash; puzzles easy enough that all the children would do fairly well. Once the child finished the test, the researchers told each student his score, then gave him a single line of praise. Randomly divided into groups, some were praised for their intelligence. They were told, &ldquo;You must be smart at this.&rdquo; Other students were praised for their effort: &ldquo;You must have worked really hard.&rdquo;&hellip;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then the students were given a choice of test for the second round. One choice was a test that would be more difficult than the first, but the researchers told the kids that they&rsquo;d learn a lot from attempting the puzzles. The other choice&hellip;was an easy test, just like the first. Of those praised for their effort, 90 percent chose the harder set of puzzles. Of those praised for their intelligence, a majority chose the easy test. The &ldquo;smart&rdquo; kids <strong>took the cop-out<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>But why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;When we praise children for their intelligence,&rdquo; [researcher Carol Dweck] wrote in her study summary, &ldquo;we tell them that this is the name of the game: Look smart, don&rsquo;t risk making mistakes.&rdquo; And that&rsquo;s what the fifth-graders had done: They&rsquo;d chosen to look smart and avoid the risk of <strong>being embarrassed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In a subsequent round, none of the fifth-graders had a choice. The test was difficult, designed for kids two years ahead of their grade level. Predictably, everyone failed. But again, the two groups of children, divided at random at the study&rsquo;s start, responded differently. Those praised for their effort on the first test assumed they simply hadn&rsquo;t focused hard enough on this test. &ldquo;They got very involved, willing to try every solution to the puzzles,&rdquo; Dweck recalled. &ldquo;Many of them remarked, unprovoked, &lsquo;This is my favorite test.&rsquo;?&rdquo; Not so for those praised for their smarts. They assumed their failure was evidence that they <strong>weren&rsquo;t really smart<\/strong> at all. &ldquo;Just watching them, you could see the strain. They were sweating and miserable.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having artificially induced a round of failure, Dweck&rsquo;s researchers then gave all the fifth-graders a final round of tests that were engineered to be as easy as the first round. Those who had been praised for their effort significantly improved on their first score &ndash; by about 30 percent. Those who&rsquo;d been told they were smart <strong>did worse<\/strong> than they had at the very beginning &ndash; by about 20 percent.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Telling your kid they&rsquo;re smart stresses them out. It shifts their focus to getting and keeping that label of &ldquo;smart.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when they&rsquo;re focused on labels instead of learning, they don&rsquo;t learn as well, they don&rsquo;t enjoy the learning process, and they actually do <em>worse<\/em> on their schoolwork because of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Okay, Okay! Tell Me What to Do Instead!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&rsquo;re like me, after reading this you&rsquo;re all &ldquo;Wait, whaaa? <strong>Not<\/strong> tell my kid they&rsquo;re smart? That&rsquo;s just MEAN!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And yes, you may feel like a meanie at first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the secret to turning your child into an awesome student and setting them up for a life of success is to praise their effort, not the outcome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every time you feel the urge to say &ldquo;Wow, you&rsquo;re so smart&rdquo; or &ldquo;You&rsquo;re really good at math,&rdquo; say this <strong>magic phrase<\/strong> instead:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;You worked really hard.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&rsquo;s <strong>all<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just comment on how much effort your kid put into what they&rsquo;re doing. Add a &ldquo;Wow&rdquo; at the front if you want to kick it up a notch. (But if you start to feel like a robot always saying that one phrase, you can keep your encouragement fresh with <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/words-of-encouragement-for-kids\/\">these 125 encouraging phrases for kids<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over time, your child will learn that it&rsquo;s okay to struggle. That it&rsquo;s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. And even better, they&rsquo;ll learn that it&rsquo;s <em>fun<\/em> to challenge yourself to learn new things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Get Your Copy: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">9 Best Mindset Posters That Will Inspire Your Child to Keep Trying<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"423\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg\" alt=\"Growth mindset posters that will inspire your kid to keep trying\" class=\"wp-image-12513\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med-300x198.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med-340x225.jpg 340w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Print These Coloring Posters to Change Your Kid&rsquo;s Mindset<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I&rsquo;ve tried <em>countless<\/em> parenting techniques to encourage a growth mindset in my kids &ndash; some of them total duds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I wish I&rsquo;d created these <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">special mindset posters<\/a> much earlier because the results have been <strong>fast<\/strong> and impressive with my grade-schooler <em>and<\/em> my preschooler. (Even my toddler repeats the growth mindset mantras she hears from her older sisters!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thanks to these mindset posters, my kids have internalized <strong>powerful<\/strong>, positive mantras to remind them that hard work and sticking with a problem will help their brains grow &ndash; and will help them become the people they want to be. (Check out the <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/growth-mindset-posters\/\">science behind these growth mindset posters<\/a> that makes them so powerful with kids.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Get your own set of <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">mindset posters here<\/a>, and you&rsquo;ll unlock your child&rsquo;s true potential for working hard, not giving up, and learning from their mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"415\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640.png\" alt=\"Mindset posters that will inspire your child to keep trying\" class=\"wp-image-12520\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640.png 640w, 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