{"id":6008,"date":"2014-11-04T17:00:49","date_gmt":"2014-11-04T23:00:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/?p=6008"},"modified":"2024-01-03T17:20:15","modified_gmt":"2024-01-03T23:20:15","slug":"kid-gives-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/kid-gives-up\/","title":{"rendered":"The Most Powerful Way to Respond When Your Kid Gives Up"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"meta-desc\">Inside: If your kid gives up when things get hard, they might need to develop a growth mindset. Use this powerful trick to teach your child to keep trying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every Friday when my oldest was in first grade, she&rsquo;d get a list of spelling words from her teacher: ten main spelling words with five challenge words for extra credit. The next Friday, they&rsquo;d have a spelling test covering those words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because spelling was one of my <strong>favorite<\/strong> subjects in grade school, the first time I saw the spelling sheet in her backpack, I couldn&rsquo;t help but smile. Gold stars, here we come!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So that first week, we practiced every day. In the car, at the dinner table, while she colored with her baby sister.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She rocked the first test, and I figured we had this spelling test business all figured out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"yellowbox\"><strong>Ready for a shortcut?<\/strong> Get these fun <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">coloring posters<\/a> for your child to teach them the power of hard work and sticking with a problem.<\/p>\n\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id6008_d3fa3f-29 .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id6008_d3fa3f-29 .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id6008_d3fa3f-29 .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;text-transform:uppercase;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id6008_d3fa3f-29 .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-but-then-the-real-test-came\">But Then the Real Test Came<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Every week, she got a new list with new words. When we&rsquo;d first start practicing each list, she didn&rsquo;t know most&mdash;if any&mdash;of the words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But my daughter <strong>hates<\/strong> making mistakes. So we couldn&rsquo;t even get through all the words that first time without her getting frustrated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then my big kid would give up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>And seeing her give up left <em>me<\/em> frustrated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&rsquo;d feed off each other&rsquo;s negative emotions, and it wasn&rsquo;t a pretty sight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/secret-phrase-better-student\/\">Here&rsquo;s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"425\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes.jpg\" alt=\"What to Do When Your Kid Gives Up: Mistakes\" class=\"wp-image-6040\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes-440x292.jpg 440w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes-200x132.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-mistakes.jpg\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/theilr\/8108733370\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">theilr<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"what-worked\">Here&rsquo;s What Worked<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>One week, I changed my approach. After re-reading <a title=\"Here&rsquo;s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student\" href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/2014\/02\/secret-phrase-better-student\/\">this article on why it doesn&rsquo;t help to tell your kid they&rsquo;re smart<\/a> plus all the <a title=\"7 Surefire Ways to Make Your Kid a Better Student\" href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/2014\/02\/7-ways-better-student\/\">extra tips<\/a> I found in my research for that article, I was <strong>ready<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&rsquo;d just picked her up from school, and we were at a coffee shop, splitting a piece of pumpkin bread.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;How about we practice your spelling words?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Okay.&rdquo; She pointed at the pumpkin bread. &ldquo;Is this the only snack we&rsquo;re getting?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Yes, silly,&rdquo; I said. &ldquo;We can&rsquo;t fill up on baked goods before dinner.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She took a <strong>huge<\/strong> bite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Let&rsquo;s do something different with spelling words today,&rdquo; I said. &ldquo;I know you get frustrated when you make mistakes when you&rsquo;re first learning the words. Every time you try to spell it but get it wrong, let&rsquo;s high five.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She narrowed her eyes. &ldquo;Why?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Because mistakes mean you&rsquo;re learning. They&rsquo;re a <em>good<\/em> thing.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Well, what will we do when I get it right?&rdquo; She took another huge bite of pumpkin bread.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What do you want to do?&rdquo; I asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She smiled. &ldquo;Let&rsquo;s do a double high-five and say &lsquo;wahoo!&rsquo;&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Deal.&rdquo; I held out my hand, and we <strong>shook<\/strong> on it. &ldquo;Do you want to start with the regular words or the challenge words?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five.jpg\" alt=\"What to Do When Your Kid Gives Up: High-Five Pandas\" class=\"wp-image-6042\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five-438x292.jpg 438w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five-200x133.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/kid-gives-up-high-five.jpg\"><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/wcdumonts\/11429063545\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Mark Dumont<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>She swallowed her last piece of pumpkin bread. &ldquo;Challenge words.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I raised an eyebrow. &ldquo;Okay. Spell &rsquo;November.&rsquo;&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She grinned. &ldquo;That&rsquo;s easy. N-O-V-E-M-B-E-R.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I put up both hands for a <strong>double<\/strong> high-five. We both said &ldquo;wahoo,&rdquo; and she giggled and looked around the coffee shop to see if anyone had heard us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Can I have more pumpkin bread?&rdquo; she asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I shook my head and smiled. &ldquo;Again, no,&rdquo; I said. &ldquo;Okay, spell &lsquo;motion.&rsquo;&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She bit her lip. &ldquo;M-O-&hellip;&rdquo; She paused. &ldquo;I-O-N?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Close! It&rsquo;s M-O-T-I-O-N.&rdquo; I put up a hand and smiled big. &ldquo;High-five, you&rsquo;re learning!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She high-fived back but <strong>frowned<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Hey, that&rsquo;s a good thing. Getting it wrong a few times helps you learn it better.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Okay, give me another one.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Spell &lsquo;science.&rsquo;&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;These are hard!&rdquo; she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;That means they&rsquo;re a good workout for your brain. When we&rsquo;re done practicing, your brain is going to be even <em>bigger<\/em>.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We kept practicing, and <strong>every time<\/strong> she got it wrong I put a big smile on my face, held out my hand, and said &ldquo;High-five, you&rsquo;re learning!&rdquo; or &ldquo;Your brain is bigger now!&rdquo; or &ldquo;Next time, it&rsquo;ll be easier.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After a few times, she no longer frowned when she got it wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was actually <em>smiling<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Related: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/negative-self-talk-in-children\/\">One Powerful Word That Will Stop Negative Self-Talk in Kids<\/a> {Printable}<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy.jpg\" alt=\"What to Do When Your Kid Gives Up\" class=\"wp-image-5401\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy.jpg 600w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy-438x292.jpg 438w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy-200x133.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/pouting-kid-happy.jpg\"><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Photo by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/amandasphotographs\/4606737272\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Amanda Bowman<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-verdict\">The Verdict<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When we got through the whole list, I asked, &ldquo;Well, how did that go? Did it feel better to high-five and celebrate mistakes?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She grinned and nodded. &ldquo;Yes.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Is there anything else that would have helped more?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Every time I get a word wrong, you could give me some more food.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I laughed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;What?&rdquo; she said. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m always hungry.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So I went and bought that girl <strong>another<\/strong> piece of pumpkin bread.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She deserved it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Get Your Copy: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">9 Best Mindset Posters That Will Inspire Your Child to Keep Trying<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"celebrate-mistakes\">Why You Need to Celebrate Your Child&rsquo;s Mistakes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If your child tends to give up after they make a mistake or when they&rsquo;re learning something new, they might be stuck in what researchers call a <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/secret-phrase-better-student\/\">fixed mindset<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Children who have a fixed mindset believe that you&rsquo;re as smart as you&rsquo;ll ever be. They think you can&rsquo;t change how smart you are, no matter how hard you try. And you can&rsquo;t change your personality or how creative you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But children with a growth mindset believe that if you work hard, you can become smarter. These kids&nbsp;<em>thrive<\/em>&nbsp;on challenge. And this is important because more than 20 years of research shows that the&nbsp;<strong>key to success<\/strong>&nbsp;in school and life is having a growth mindset. In other words, if you believe that trying hard will make you smarter, it will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want to help shift your child&rsquo;s mindset and inspire them to keep trying, even when it&rsquo;s hard, one of the best steps you can take is to start celebrating your child&rsquo;s mistakes. <a href=\"http:\/\/nymag.com\/news\/features\/27840\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Here&rsquo;s why<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>&ldquo;Students turn to cheating because they haven&rsquo;t developed a strategy for handling failure. The problem is compounded when a parent ignores a child&rsquo;s failures and insists he&rsquo;ll do better next time. Michigan scholar Jennifer Crocker studies this exact scenario and explains that the child may come to believe failure is something so terrible, the family can&rsquo;t acknowledge its existence. A child deprived of the opportunity to discuss mistakes&nbsp;<em>can&rsquo;t learn<\/em>&nbsp;from them.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>What does it look like to celebrate your child&rsquo;s mistakes? Here are a few examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Shift your reaction. <\/strong>When your child makes a mistake, pay attention to your reaction, including your facial expression, tone of voice, and the words you say. If it&rsquo;s not appropriate to use a celebratory tone, try to at least stay neutral. For example, suppose your child is pouring milk into a cereal bowl and misses, spilling milk all over the kitchen counter. My knee-jerk reaction might be to exclaim the child&rsquo;s name and say something like, &ldquo;You need to pay more attention to what you&rsquo;re doing!&rdquo; But since learning about growth mindset, I&rsquo;ve practiced adopting a neutral or even upbeat tone in that situation:\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Now, I might say, &ldquo;Aw, biscuits. The rags are under the sink if you need one.&rdquo; I keep my tone neutral and my facial expression open to communicate that the mistake isn&rsquo;t a big deal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Or if I&rsquo;m having a great parenting day and feeling tapped into my playful side, I might act startled and say, &ldquo;Whoa! Did you see that <em>giant<\/em> yeti that just barged through here? He walked <em>right<\/em> over the counter and bumped into the milk jug! Let&rsquo;s clean it up together.&rdquo; By making light of the mishap, you send the message that mistakes happen, and they&rsquo;re not the end of the world.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Open up at dinner.<\/strong> At the dinner table, go around the table and ask everyone&mdash;including adults&mdash;to share a mistake from their day and what they learned from it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Take a break.<\/strong> If your child is learning something new and getting incredibly frustrated, walk up to them and say, &ldquo;I can see you&rsquo;re trying hard. Your brain must be getting a good workout! Let&rsquo;s go grab an ice cream to celebrate all that hard work.&rdquo;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-but-did-that-actually-help-her-learn\">But Did That Actually Help Her Learn?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>On Friday after her test, I gave her a hug and pulled back to search her face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Well?&rdquo; I asked. &ldquo;How&rsquo;d you do on your spelling test?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She smiled and looked at the ground. &ldquo;I got a 105.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Whoa!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She giggled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;So you got all the regular words right, <em>plus<\/em> all the challenge words right?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She nodded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;Wait a second,&rdquo; I said. I squinted. &ldquo;How did you <em>do<\/em> that? Were you just born magically knowing how to spell all those words?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&ldquo;No.&rdquo; Still smiling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<p>&ldquo;Tell me your secret. How&rsquo;d you get a 105?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She rolled her eyes. &ldquo;Because I made mistakes and worked hard.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Duh<\/em>, Mom.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"423\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg\" alt=\"Growth mindset posters that will inspire your kid to keep trying\" class=\"wp-image-12513\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med-300x198.jpg 300w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med-340x225.jpg 340w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-double-1-med.jpg\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-print-these-coloring-posters-to-change-your-kid-s-mindset\">Print These Coloring Posters to Change Your Kid&rsquo;s Mindset<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I&rsquo;ve tried <em>countless<\/em> parenting techniques to encourage a growth mindset in my kids&mdash;some of them total duds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But I wish I&rsquo;d created these <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">special mindset posters<\/a> much earlier because the results have been <strong>fast<\/strong> and impressive with my grade-schooler <em>and<\/em> my preschooler. (Even my toddler repeats the growth mindset mantras she hears from her older sisters!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thanks to these mindset posters, my kids have internalized <strong>powerful<\/strong>, positive mantras to remind them that hard work and sticking with a problem will help their brains grow&mdash;and will help them become the people they want to be. (Check out the <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/growth-mindset-posters\/\">science behind these growth mindset posters<\/a> that makes them so powerful with kids.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Get your own set of <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">mindset posters here<\/a>, and you&rsquo;ll unlock your child&rsquo;s true potential for working hard, not giving up, and learning from her mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"415\" src=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640.png\" alt=\"Mindset posters that will inspire your child to keep trying\" class=\"wp-image-12520\" srcset=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640.png 640w, https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640-300x195.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/growth-mindset-posters-cover-med-640.png\"><\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading after-entry-cta\" id=\"h-get-your-copy-now-9-best-mindset-posters-that-will-inspire-your-child-to-keep-trying\">Get your copy now: <a href=\"https:\/\/happyyouhappyfamily.com\/mindset-posters\">9 Best Mindset Posters That Will Inspire Your Child to Keep Trying<\/a><\/h6>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-want-more\">Want More?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want to nurture a growth mindset in your child, here are our most popular resources:<\/p>\n\n\n<style>.kt-post-loop6008_aefb4f-e3 .kadence-post-image{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kt-post-loop6008_aefb4f-e3 .kt-post-grid-wrap{gap:30px 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